"Playing favorites is always a bad thing. You can do great harm in seemingly harmless ways." There is a phrase I hear too often. It's a phrase that I'll personally never use.
What phrase am I referring to you ask? When mothers post pictures of their first born baby and say "You made me a mom." I am currently pregnant with baby number two. Let me tell you, this pregnancy is no different than my first. I am tickled to death about expanding my family. Feeling the baby move for the first time wasn't a "been there done that feeling" it was like brand new all over again. Like something I had never felt before. This baby is different and new and exciting. Just as my first was. I am personally a middle child(second born) and my mom never made any of us more important than the other. Something I feel my generation does way too much. I too often look at Facebook and see that phrase. What about my first born "makes me a mom" anymore than my second born? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. He will be just as important. Just as talented. Just as special as my first. People think this phrase means no harm. Think about how you would feel if you weren't the first born in your family. Now think about your mom looking at the oldest sibling and saying "you will always have a special place in my heart because you made me a mom." It's hurtful even though it's not meant to hurt anyone. You make her a mom too. As a mom I will make sure both my boys feel they are treated equally. Favoritism is something I've watched in my family and in others. There is something special and unique about each individual child. So why make one child think they hung the moon and the other feel as if they don't exist. I never want to be THAT mom. The mom where you can tell she obviously favors one child over the other. No matter what I will love my boys the same(: I can't wait to meet my little Logan Thomas. He will be loved, cuddled, and spoiled just as his brother was when he was born!
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AuthorJessica Hatcher, 24, Anthem, AZ. Archives
May 2017
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