"There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you." - Maya Angelou Christmas time is my favorite time but there will forever be an ache in my heart remembering what could have been. As some of you know(all of you if you've read my blog before) I had a miscarriage at the age of 19 years old. I was due with my first baby December 25th, 2013. While I now have a happy and healthy (almost) one year old, that I am so grateful for, that doesn't mean you forget about the unborn baby that you never had. I know we live in a "sensitive" world today BUT by no means is a woman being sensitive when she has to see this Facebook status posted a hundred times because people think it's funny: "Well it's official, I have some amazing news but at the same time shocking news. I'm expecting! 6 weeks and counting. I know, I'm in shock too. I can hardly believe it myself. I wasn't going to post anything on Facebook but since you're all close friends and family, I wanted to make it official. I'm too overwhelmed to keep this a secret anymore. Who would have thought me of all people is expecting but I am. I'm expecting Santa Claus in just 6 weeks. So excited for Christmas." While many, many, many people think this is funny I personally find it offensive. It makes a woman who has gone through a miscarriage feel like she is being mocked. Like pregnancy is no big deal to some people. Think of all the women who can't have kids of their own. How do you think they feel when people "joke" about "expecting." I was blessed to have another chance at being a mom. A year after miscarrying I found out I was pregnant with Matthew Clay. I was absolutely terrified through the whole pregnancy. It was something new each trimester. The first, I was scared I was going to miscarry again. The second, I was worried he was going to randomly just stop breathing. And the third, I was worried the cord was going to wrap around his neck. I always found something to worry about because that's only natural. As silly as many may think it is to get butt hurt over a Facebook status I find it necessary. To all my friends and family that have had miscarriages or haven't been able to conceive on their own my heart goes out to you. We hide it well...but that doesn't mean it isn't there. Pregnancy is nothing to joke about. I hope everyone has a Merry Christmas and a happy new year! I love you all (:
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AuthorJessica Hatcher, 24, Anthem, AZ. Archives
May 2017
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